This is written to husband’s, but changing a few word around can apply to wives as well. This article is under construction.
Love is not, “I love you.” Love is a dedicated act, a lifelong commitment to act. Never forget that love is an action. Love is not love if is is not based on taking action. Actions of love can include many things. Thoughtful actions like cleaning up the house for when your wife gets home. Taking out the trash. A man should serve his wife like Christ served his church. It is possible that you may have to sacrifice something you value for your wife. Man should not have to compromise his relationship with his wife for his own gain. In all things he should put her before his own well being. Hold the umbrella to keep her dry as you take on the storm, if you catch my drift. Never forget that she deserves your action based love. Love goes both ways also -I personally believe that husbands and wives are equally accountable to God and therefore should honor each other.
Always be kind and always be patient. What’s the rush? Maybe she takes a long time to get ready. That’s okay. Cherish those moments she takes to look and feel good. Sometimes she take so long to look good for you. Not always, you you get what I saying… Encourage her to feel like herself. Don’t rush the little moments.
Don’t rush or you will bypass the little details in exchange for your own utility.
Don’t rush or you will bypass the little details in exchange for your own utility.* And when you’re alone remember she should be the focus of your attention and that she is not for your use but for the glorification of God.
When she’s having a bad day, don’t offer a solution but instead, be her stability when she is unstable. You are the rock that she wants when it feels like the water of the world is washing her away. When you are in trouble, cling to her that you would remember the action love she has given you. Do not ever forget that you have her, even when times are difficult on your own.
And in all things, rejoice together. Talk about God. Talk about his works. Talk about the miracle that brought you together. Remember that the chance is not working for you, but God is. Luck didn’t put you together, God did. And be thankful together that your holy God took an action based love to move you together. Never forget that you are not alone with her and with God. Put the Lord first and then your marriage and he will be the guide through your lives. Do not boast on your action based love, but always go an extra mile. Do not compare who loves more, but always do things for each other. Anyway to show action based love is an opportunity to show true love.
And when you are weak, cling to her. And when you are feeling void, cling to her. And when you are together, cling to the cross. Run to Jesus and be healed, together as one.
“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.” -Song of Solomon 8:7
“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” -Colossians 3:14
“We love because he first loved us.” -1 John 4:19
*The concept of “utility” here is like a building built just for office space and serves no beauty on the exterior -Next blog post will be about the concept of utility in general